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Welcome to our publication!!! Today, June 4, 2013, marks the release of the 7th Edition of Jubilee News. We've faithfully delivered "the news" from our perspective. Not the current events of the day though the news caption bar on our Main page offers a few tidbits. Not the headlines as captioned by some of the larger, older publications that have gone from paper to a supporting online version. It's not that we frown on telling similar stories or on their work-no, not at all. But we've purposed to present a certain kind of news-that which pertains to the strengthening of male-female relationships. Fifteen weeks ago we set out and we poured out our hearts to spark social change; to start a "relationship revolution," one person, one couple at a time. And, as if that was not a unique enough platform, we also purposed to do that by encouraging uplifting and empowering woman to woman exchanges on the topic. Our poets, spoken word enthusiasts, & columnists are, in my opinion, the most talented group that time and talent could muster. And they relentlessly give via their writing to this cause taking only the satisfaction of their investment in social change as their payment.
Biblically speaking, the number seven represents perfection and
completion. Although we are far from perfect, the grace of the LORD enabled us
to complete our mission with the release of a brand new edition-the 7th
Edition- and hopefully, with each new edition thereafter.
From all of us here at Jubilee News to you and yours, we bid you
health and wholeness, always!
Enthusiastically,
James W. Falcon
Daddy to 5 Princess Daughters
“Pop-Pop” to 1 Grand Princess & 3 Grand Princes
Associates of Arts, Biblical Studies
Bachelor of Science, Psychology
Master of Science, Organizational Leadership
Founder, Café Encouragement & Café Encouragement Radio
Founder of WHEN MEN SPEAK
Founder/Co-Host, WHEN MEN SPEAK-The Radio Edition
Founder/Editor-In-Chief, Jubilee News-A WHEN MEN SPEAK Publication
Author of:
Up & Over: Encouragement In Tough Times
What Men Really Need: A Step To Reconciliation Between Men and Women
PTICH BLACK: Navigating the Darkness
The Daddy Pages
Jubilee News welcomes more from the writer who
goes by the name, Nekil. Nekil comes to us endowed with experience as a
columnist as well as an Editor-In-Chief. Sent our way by another of our Jubilee
News Team, Nekil's passion for social change is not only obvious but
contagious. Freed from her former obligations as Editor-In-Chief, Nekil brings
Jubilee News fresh insight and a brand new flavor of expression in her writing
style. Join me in celebrating Nekil's return work. Enjoy!
Who Shot CHIVALRY?
Chivalry isn’t dead but it is definitely on life support,
but one by one we can revive it!
Chivalry
consists of courtesy, generosity and valor. A woman wants a man to exhibit
these key components and the more courteous, generous and the more boldness and
bravery a man shows a woman the more likely she will be wrapped around his
finger, faithfully, catering to his every need! Maintaining a relationship
consist of these qualities in addition to passion, commitment, intimacy and
love. The problem in today’s society as opposed to in the past is that everyone
seems to be in a rush and rushing leads to forgetting that each of these
components when dating and building a relationship are determining factors in
the success of the relationship.
Google has the
answer.
Many
years ago these sorts of things would actually happen:
A young man
would fall madly in love with a woman and they’d eventually get married, have
children and live together, happily ever after. In today’s society this is
virtually unheard of and there is no one reason for this sudden change in the
way we date but there are many aspects that have made is less likely for the
next generation to even want to pursue a long term relationship or marriage
with someone. In this world of many options, people are growing more and more
impatient and become bored easily making people and things disposable because
just as soon as you strive for the next new technological device, such as the
newest hottest phone, video game console or internet program, it’s creators are
hard at work creating the next best thing that will entice you, making you feel
as though you’ve got to have it.
The dating game
has changed drastically over the past 50 years; allow me to give you a glimpse
into how dating used to be, how it is today and how each and every one of us
can change the future of dating by implementing a few things that will give
hope to the next generation.
DATING (BACK IN THE DAY)
Back in the day
men and women actually had their mind set on meeting one person to build a
future with them. The man would take the initiative in letting a woman know
that he’s interested in her by asking her to go out on a date with him and
traditionally he would be the one responsible for paying for the date. If the
two find that they are compatible and have a mutual attraction to one another
they will then enter into a courtship and embark on a more serious relationship
which could possibly lead to marriage and children. Marriages were more
successful because men knew that family was important and they worked harder to
keep their families together. The music was even different; there were more
love songs from men that would sing ballots about how good it was to be in love
and hearing love songs had a big influence on how relationships were viewed.
Men would even pick up the phone and call a woman and they’d spend several
hours communicating with one another, getting to know all about one another was
very important, especially if the reason for dating was to figure out if this
person was the one you’d spend the rest of your life with.
DATING (TODAY)
Men and women
for the most part still desire to settle down with one person and build a
future with them for the most part but by not taking the time to really get to
know one another during courtship leads to so many relationships failing
because so many steps have been skipped and once you get deeply involved you
realize that you don’t really know the person you’re with. Phone calls have
been almost completely taken out of the equation as a means of communicating;
many couples communicate more via text message and email. Dating has even
become rare. A date today usually consist of a man inviting a woman to his home
or a woman allowing a man to come to her home, which isn’t smart especially if
you don’t know the person that well. Love songs are almost nonexistent, instead
of being influence positively by songs such as, “Ain’t No Sunshine When She’s
Gone” by Bill Withers or “Let’s Stay Together” by Al Green we are constantly
reminded that love won’t last in songs such as, “Hurt” by Christina Aguilera or
almost in any Mary J Blige song. There are even songs that promote
unfaithfulness and promiscuity like it’s cool to wonder from man to man or
woman to woman aimlessly with no real intentions of a long term commitment.
What you put into
a relationship is what you’ll get out of it!
To exhibit more chivalry a man
should:
1) Be
Courteous:
Courteous behavior should be demonstrated
to all women, not just a woman you find attractive, you never know who’s
watching and one day all men will eventually want to settle down with a woman
for a more serious relationship; no one wants to grow old alone. Being
courteous at all times is a good practice and practice makes perfect!
2) Be
Respectful:
Respect should always be given to women.
Respectful behavior consists of taking your time to get to know her, even
though she may be irresistible to you it’s important that you find out her
likes and dislikes by admiring her body but showing her respect by asking her
permission before making any sudden moves with hopes that this will lead to
intimacy.
3) Be
a Good Listener:
Listen attentively to what she says
without dominating the conversation; this lets a woman know that you’re
interested in her on more than just a physical level.
4) Be
Clear:
Being clear about your intentions with a
woman allows her to be sure that what you’re offering is something that she’s
interested in. Being a man of your word and refraining from making promises
that can’t be kept is all a part of being clear about the direction you want to
go in the relationship.
5) Be
Generous:
Generosity isn’t restricted to money or
material things, but it’s also not excluded. Being generous with your time,
affection and attention let’s a woman know that she is important to you and a
woman will gladly reciprocate all that she’s given making for the beginnings of
a great relationship!
Nekil Colden is an extremely talented writer, a gifted visionary, and
powerful motivational speaker. The above article was used by the writer's
permission as it was printed previously in Optimum Magazine. Thank you, Nekil,
for choosing Jubilee News.
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The
Top 10 Things Single Women Should Do Before Starting A New Relationship
By Dr. Ann
By Dr. Ann
10. Forgive yourself and your past
partners for all your past relationship mistakes and
missteps. In short, get rid of all your baggage. Put simply, it is very
difficult to travel by any means when you are bogged down with luggage.
Clearing the air and setting aside past hurts will put you in a position to see
this relationship with clarity and no damaging prejudgments.
9. Draft a Will/Living Will.
So you say that you’re single, have no children, and nothing of value? OK give
me your address and leave your doors unlocked while you’re at it leave your car
doors open also. Chances are there is at least 1 item that you have in your
possession that is gem to you. Many families get along when family members are
alive but start World War III when a loved one dies and have no will in place
for a Fur coat. In those cases you find at least 3 family members who recall
being told that they could have the coat upon the deceased’s death.
8. Get Life Insurance.
Let’s face it we all will be called home one day. The greatest gift you can
give your loved ones is to be prepared. The average funeral costs approximately
$10,000 - $15,000. Having life insurance will ease the burden of this cost for
your loved ones.
7. Reinvest in you.
Read the following titles: The Bible by God; Can You Do it Standing Up? By
Kenny Pugh; Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey; How To Avoid the
10 Mistakes Single Women Make by Laura Bagby. These few selected works should
assist in many areas. They have been chosen to help you learn how a man thinks.
They will also highlight the importance of knowing yourself and your self
worth. You will learn lessons from other men and woman who have travelled your
path. Lastly you should begin to understand the importance of valuing and
taking care of your finances.
6. Start a new hobby/start your own
business. The time to explore a hobby or finally start that
business you have been dreaming about is while you are single. When you are in
the midst of entrepenuerial pursuits you will not have the time nor the energy
to dedicate to nurturing a relationship. Although women are often masters at
multi tasking; men often are not and will put a relationship on the back burner
until he has achieved the goals he has set for himself.
5. Take a cooking class.
Whether you have difficulty boiling water or you’re considered the next Martha
Stewart or Paula Dean you will find that taking this class will provide you
multiple benefits. In this fast paced world we have all found it difficult to
have
4. Exercise. The Mayo
Clinic reports credits exercise with 7 positive benefits. a. Improves mood b.
Controls weight c. Boosts energy d. Promotes better sleep hygiene e. Fights
health conditions/diseases f. Promotes physical intimacy g. Can be a fun
activity
3. Take Stock of your health.
Visit your health care provider and get a full check up including blood work.
Ensure that you see your dentist at least twice a year. Additionally, ensure
that you visit an OB/Gyn at least annually and schedule a mammogram if you are
over the age of 40. It is a good idea to know the full scope of your health. In
the event that you have a health issue you will be armed with education and
early detection.
2. Get your finances in order.
High Debt causes high stress to individuals but unchecked financial freedoms
can doom most relationships. Its important to learn your true relationship with
your assets as well as your liabilities.
1. Get to know yourself.
For some this may include some external life coach or therapeutic
interventions. The external assistance may be quite necessary for serious cases
of past history of abuse and violence as well as in case when a person is just
stuck in cyclical patterns of dating the same type of person. Knowledge of self
will help you to realize destructive and unproductive patterns in yourself and
others. Knowledge will also help you know your worth. If you get to a point
where you recognize your value, you will not let negativity destroy your peace.
Dr. Ann is a licensed counselor in the state of GA and has held licenses in MD and NJ. She is currently pursuing her doctorate in Industrial Organizational Psychology. Dr. Ann is a woman of extraordinary wisdom who is tenacious about helping people. In addition, she is a returning contributor. Join us in the celebration of this professional and her practical insight.
Jubilee
News is proud to present another column (The Memoirs) from the columnist (A
Lady). This section of the newsletter presents topics in a very sobering,
straightforward manner designed to shock & stun both men and women back to
honesty with, first: themselves; and then with each other. Do more than enjoy
this as good reading, put this information to use and enjoy the return on your
investment. Jubilee News presents the work of: From the
Memoirs of A Lady.
YOU HAVE NOT YET REALIZED YOUR FULL POTENTIAL
I’ll never forget the day I was visiting with my auntie at
her home in VA. I was in my mid- twenties and was fresh into a relationship
with a new guy. I was so excited about it and was going on and on about the
plans I had for him and me. I was building the rest of my life and all
of myself around this one person. My auntie was in the
middle of preparing for a dinner party. I sat in the kitchen with her while she
chopped and cut and mixed this and that. As I was continuously talking, she was
continuously chopping and dicing. I finally said to myself, “This woman ain’t
paying me a lick of attention.” Just as the thought entered my mind, she looked
up from her cutting board and said in one breath, “You have yet to realize your
full potential.” Then she said, “Sweetie, would you please pass me that pan
down there.” Now I’m thinking, “Auntie, did you not hear ANYTHING I just
said!!!!”
Not only did she hear every word that was spoken out of my
mouth, she heard the words that were unspoken. She heard the plans I had for
myself and that they were shallow, beneath the capabilities and potentials that
I had inside of me. She saw my worth, and spoke to that which was valuable and
precious in her sight.
This is what the Father does to us! Because we are
valuable and precious in His sight, he says, “For I know the thoughts and plans
that I have for you, … thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for
evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.” (Jer 29:11) We, on the other
hand, tend to follow our own plans … selling ourselves short of what God wants
for us. We limit ourselves and reduce ourselves to what we believe “This is all
I am capable of. This is all I am worth.” Because we are human and we feed off
of our places of fear and insecurities, our thoughts towards ourselves are
SHALLOW (lacking depth; superficial; taking in a relatively small amount of air
in each breath).
TAKE A DEEP BREATH!!! Feed yourself more… more courage,
more positive thoughts, more assurance that you are WORTHY. That you do deserve
BETTER. That you are CAPABLE. Listen to the words that are being spoken out of
your own mouth, are they negative?… speak positive. Are they degrading?…
upgrade them. Are they demeaning?… add meaning to them. Are they killing you?…
speak life. Are you dying from the labels, demands and criticisms that others
have placed on your life? … choose to listen to the words that God has chosen
for you… “Before I formed you in the womb I knew and approved of you as My
chosen instrument, and before you were born I separated and set you apart, consecrated
you;…” (Jer 1:5)
Realize
your greater potential and aim to fulfill it.
Sincerely submitted,
From "The Memoirs of a Lady"
"The Funny
Bone" is Jubilee News' comic strip. We value love AND
laughter, so check out the posts below and...get your laugh on! This week's
submissions are Jubilee News originals. Enjoy!
From the Intense Heat Chronicles (a play on the weather):
Got a text from my old girl, Mercury, which said: Wish things were different with us. Gonna be here up north with family for a while. They're good people-a real low pressure system if you know what I mean? You used to be so fair weather. But now your throttle is stuck on seering heat. Missed the variety you used to offer. And this business with dat chick humidity, I'm sorry...I just can't tolerate it. We need some time a part. After our last discussion, I waited 15 minutes, but the changes I saw didn't suit me. I just need to cool down a bit.
Thanks for understanding,
Your girl, Merc
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Found another note on my broken thermometer that read...
Realized I was wrong for leaving you. Thought about it over the weekend. Came back to talk, but found you and what's her name...humidity...all hugged up. I'm tired of you playin' games. We're done!
-Signed Merc(ury)
I WISH ALL WOMEN THOUGHT
LIKE MEN DO
by James W. Falcon
I wish all women thought like men do
You'd be surprised to know what we knew
We are far from brute beasts
without a clue
But thoughtful beings with a
panoramic view
Whose love runs deep with
hearts that truly pant for you
I wish all women thought like men do
Then you would see us, feel us, understand us anew
You'd realize that there is
more to us than shades of grey but a plethora of colors and hue
You'd understand why we're
quiet and stew
You'd partner with us for a
ball game and a brew
I wish all women thought like men do
You'd sing what we sing, and we'd dance a happy dance together me and you
You'd cry when we can't,
We'd roll on life's slant
We'd live long, laugh long at
least a lifetime or two
When we are quiet you'd let us be
For silence is the incubator
for thought that enables us to see
How to tackle problems, no
matter how large or tiny
No harm intended, Baby that's
just who I am...it's me
I am thankful that our God made you for me and me for you
For your security an army of
Goliaths I'd gladly slew
To buy more time to hold your
hand, to feel your embrace, and to hear you say again and again, "I love
you, too"
But sometimes...because we men are creatures of very few words...perhaps it would be easier...if...I could wave a magic wand, and...
...I'd wish all
women thought like men do.
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What follows is a compilation of things that have
been shared with me over the years from the fellas that I have hung out with.
They are bits and pieces of those rare moments when guys open up to thier
closest friends and do a conversation dump on them, hoping to "get some
things off of their chests to free themselves up enough to move on. This
section's purpose is to offer woman a glimpse into the mind of men-a place most
men don't allow many visitors. From that glimpse, it is my hope as
Editor-In-Chief, to offer women another avenue of understanding the men in
their lives. In addition, I hope to empowered women with an understanding that
there are many more similarities than there are differences between the sexes.
Indulge this unique approach by examining one of the uglier relationship
scenarios to look for some gems of hope. Allow me to be your tour guide into
the heart and mind of your man as we explore...
CONFESSIONS OF A CHEATING MAN
I
never wanted to cheat. I never saw myself committing what I called the
"ultimate betrayal.". I never imaged my name to be used in the same
sentence with the word "cheater." Like, most men-most of my male
friends that I've talked to about my situation, I felt guilty...at least at
first. Then the pain of the guilt slowly gave way to contentment-a false of contentment
but contentment all the same. It's sad because the end never justifies the
means. In other words, what I got was sex and lots of it. But what I wanted was
a better, happier, healthier relationship with my lady. My I met her, she
touched me on a number of levels. Visually, she was gorgeous! Cognitively, I
thoroughly enjoy how her mind worked. Financially, was as secure as I was. We
both university professors. Socially, she a power house. It's not that she had
no enemies...because definitely did. But even her enemies knew that she was as
much at home in social settings as a lioness was in the wild. Spiritually, we
both confessed Christ as LORD and Saviour had even found a church home to meet
our fellowship needs. Emotionally, she was solid and "whole" meaning,
she seemed to have developed a healthy understanding of all the pain as well as
the pleasure she experienced in previous relationships. And she seemed more
than willing to continue to explore the possibilities with me.
So,
we hit it off quickly: had a lot in common, and both of us appeared to be on
the same page about many, many things in life. The attraction, I believe, was
mutual and was extremely strong. How do I know? Because we looked at each other
with incredible intensity long after the "new booty" phase was over.
With us, it always, always, always seemed to go so much deeper than the
superficial. She touched my soul with all she was and as I said before, I
believe I touched her's in the same manner. So what went wrong, you ask? I have
struggled to find a answer to that question myself. To this day, six months
later, I still am not confident I can put my finger on it. I just don't know
what was going on with her. All I know is, a man knows his woman and my woman
just seemed to pull away from me. She went from being super excited about us to
giving off the vibe that she could care less.
For
a while, I thought she was seeing somebody else. I mean, there was not a
gradual change or at least none that I can remember. It all happened so fast.
We were O.K. on Monday but by Wednesday morning, the 3 years we'd invested
didn't mean anything. I tried talking to her many times. She kept assuring me
she was fine and "we" were O.K.? I tried being there for her:
listening more, talking less; exploring ways to be helpful, thoughtful of her
needs, and considerate of her wants. But I couldn't stay in that mode long
because I felt she just kept pushing me away, telling me not to worry, and
denying that anything of significance was going on in his mind and heart.
So...I got tired and I...I...couldn't stand to see such a strong woman silently
suffering the way she was. I felt helpless. For the first time in my life, I
felt like I was less than a man. Men-those of us that choose to listen-are
taught to take care of our own, especially our woman. I had been her
everything! I was her confidant and her comforter. I was a good provider. I
lavishly showered her with whatever means I had available though I realized
that that was fairly limited at times. I could do for her on every possible
level. Or at least, so I thought. But this time, this time it was different. My
humor didn't snap her out of it. My attentiveness didn't seem to make a dent.
Though
she was only in this mode for brief time, it felt like an eternity and the
feeling of powerlessness was so overwhelming, that I couldn't bear it. Why
couldn't she just tell me if she found someone else? Why couldn't she simply
explain that she was tired of "us" and she wanted to move on. Why
wouldn't she talk to me? I would not have ever admitted it then, but I'm
admitting it now, I was angry and I was scared. I thought I was loosing the one
thing-the one person- that meant everything to me and I didn't know how to cope
with that. I got so angry, that I just wanted to walk away. Walk away and leave
all of my things there and start a fresh with someone else, somewhere else. I
few times, anger fueled me enough to jump in my car and just start driving.
Twice, it happened and twice I was sober minded enough to reach out to one of
my boys who instructed me to turn the car around and to go home to my woman.
And both times, I listened. Why? Because I needed to believe that my lady could
be O.K. I needed to believe something...anything. And looking back on things, I
could have probably saved us the pain of adding the weight of betrayal and
infidelity to shoulders that were already overburdened. I could have...
Stay tuned for the next post in this ongoing series of "Confessions of a Cheating Man."
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