Welcome to the 2nd
edition of Jubilee News-A WHEN MEN SPEAK Publication. In this edition,
you can expect to enjoy even more submissions by female artists including the
Co-Host of WHEN MEN SPEAK-The Radio Edition, as well as inserts by the Editor-In-Chief,
James W. Falcon. As of 8 a.m. (EST), the newsletter has received more than 660
page views since the first drafts were posted. Others are finding the
information interesting, even helpful and we hope you do too.
Jubilee
News celebrated its launch and 1st edition on Saturday, February 16th at 1 p.m.
It was and remains the collaborative effort of a number of gifted and talented
writers and artists that responded to the vision of Editor-In-Chief &
founder of WHEN MEN SPEAK, James W. Falcon, to take some decisive steps toward
reconciling male-female relationships. Together they whole heartedly intend to
spark a RELATIONSHIP REVOLUTION! Jubilee News is an electronic, bi-weekly
newsletter by women, for women to explore the reconciliation process. It provides
a unique perspective on relationships with an extraordinary sensitivity to the
needs of men. Jubilee News will present fitting responses to the issues
discussed by it's affiliate, WHEN MEN SPEAK, the men's forum and WHEN MEN
SPEAK-The Radio Edition, the bi-weekly Blog Talk (internet) Radio broadcast.
~Disclaimer~
The
works, WHEN MEN SPEAK, WHEN MEN SPEAK-The Radio Edition, & Jubilee News-A
WHEN MEN SPEAK Publication are all the intellectual property of its founder,
creator, & Editor-In-Chief, James W. Falcon. However, the submissions of
all artists are expressly theirs. Jubilee News wishes to thank each artist for
lending this newsletter your gifts, talents, and works. Jubilee News seeks only
the best talent to convey the sometimes complicated message of reconcilation
between the sexes. Your investment in the "relationship revolution"
is greatly appreciated.
All
requests to copy or reproduce material & information found in this
newsletter must be submitted via electronic request to the Editor-In-Chief at
whenmenspeak@gmail.com.
The Dr.'s Prescription Against Dating The Fixer
Upper
Ladies, how many of you
appear to be stuck in this dating rut? You meet a man with great potential if
he would just work on/stop/change/improve _____ (fill in the blank). Shortly
into this relationship you notice that this man has some major ISSUES. Just
because you need a man does not mean you need this man.
What are the signs that you are dating a man that
is a fixer upper?
~He is afraid to commit, either he just got out of a relationship or is known as a serial
dater
~He runs everything by his mother
~He puts time in with the “boys” ahead of time with you
~He makes poor and/or hasty decisions
~You have a “to do” list of things to help your mate; find a different job (or any job!),
to lose weight, pay bills on time
~He is insecure
~Lacks self confidence
~He is easily angered and may be prone to mood swings
What type of woman is attracted to the Fixer Upper?
- Often Educated
- Problem Solver
- Self sufficient and reluctant to ask for help
- Has a role model, often a strong single parent, who shows ease in solving problems
In these relationships
you often play the role of Florence Nightingale, tireless working though each
of his issues with poise and a smile. While in the midst of completing your
daily “to do “list you may find yourself increasing referring to his list.
I know what Im doing.
Now how do I avoid repeating this cycle?
The best advice the Dr.
can give is for you to gain the realization that men are NOT projects that need
you to fix them. This is not to say that a man can not slay his
dragons but merely that it is not your job to slay them for him.
He must work on his own issues. Eventually he may be able to solve his issues
and go from Mr “Right Now” to Mr Right. Until then your best bet is to stay
clear or you will find yourself feeling overworked, used, unfulfilled and in
some cases royally pissed when he moves on and someone else sees the benefit of
all your hardwork.
ATT is a licensed
counselor in the state of GA and has held licenses in MD and NJ. She is
currently pursuing her doctorate in Industrial Organizational Psychology.
What
a happy day it will be for the woman whose man is willing and able to share in
a healthy, productive dialogue about their relationship. To break through the
pain, to put aside the hurt, and press on to reconciliation would truly provide
reasons to celebrate. Jubilence would fill the hearts of both and all those
with whom they would come in contact. So what would happen if your husband,
your boyfriend said this to you?
WHEN
MEN SPEAK
by
James W. Falcon
I
think I’m finally ready
I’m
left with no choice; it’s reconciliation I seek
So
I gathered my thoughts and am ready to speak
Please
indulge me
I
long for you…for us, and the mountain top, the peak
I’m
sorry, so sorry I’ve wait so long to speak
I’m…so
lonely, in despair, our future looks bleak
Desperation
has gripped me, there’s a gaping whole, a leak
Our
rose pedals are rotten and reek
It’s
not too late, to rekindle us, that wonderful thing we had; so special &
unique
Please
indulge me, I’m now able
For
our next date, meet me at the conference table
Where
honesty’s a must, not a lie spoken, nor fable
You
talk, I’ll listen, you listen, I’ll speak
I’ll
become a professor of us again, a student even, a geek
What
ever is necessary, whatever is needed, it’s your heart I seek
You
talk, I’ll listen, you listen, I’ll speak
What
language would you prefer, Italian, Spanish or Greek
Let’s
celebrate our past, envision our future, for the possibilities let’s peek
For
let’s leave behind the hardness, and anger and approach this with meek-
No
choice; same page? it’s reconciliation I seek
Thoughts
gathered, center stage and I…yes, I…your man..am now ready...
Sssssshhhhhh!
You talk, I’ll listen, you listen, and then I’ll speak.
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The
bar has always been set at a high mark. But the question is: are we willing to
aspire to reach it? If so, how so? And if not, why not? Let's be open; let's be
willing to explore the possibilities. The rewards and benefits will impact the
generations that follow.
Thank
you.
With
purpose and on purpose,
-James
ARTIST’S CORNER I
The Artists' Corner is the section of the newsletter
devoted entirely to those expressive women who have submitted their work to
Jubilee News for the uplift of all. Enjoy!
YOU
written
by GPF
What
if YOU could have a better life
by
walking away from the bitterness and strife
What
if YOU bypassed the oppression and pain
In
an attempt to regain your domain
As
the man God called YOU to be
Obedient
to His call, receptive to His love, truly free
Because
even if YOU think you're wise
The
ways of man lead to demise
His
wicked heart will steal the joy
Of
the little boy
Inside
his mind’s eye, it seems
Satan's
strongholds choked the dreams
He
had for YOU...
But
it does not end
YOU
can begin again
Be
reborn, my friend
Refresh,
renew the YOU
That's
true
Because
if you do
The
ONE who
Should
be the ONE who could
Love,
hope, and be the best for YOU
Will
be there, like the glistening sun
At
the dawn of day
Will
care for YOU
If
YOU walk away, from the yesterday
Of
those past few years
YOU
can release the tears
Rejoice,
share laughter
Can
YOU hear it?
Hearken,
be still
Embrace
God's Spirit
God's Precious Flower (GPF) is a visual artist, dancer, writer
& poet whose passion precedes her. She's a southerner at heart with old
fashioned values, lady-like poise and a heart of gold. Join me in thanking GPF
for her contribution to Jubilee News.
THE DADDY PAGES-PART 2
How important is it for a little girl to have her father in
her life? Is a father's presence that important? What are the benefits of
having a solid connection with your Dad? Ladies, follow a fictional character
named Blossom as she grapples with these topics in her growth and development
from childhood to womanhood in each biweekly addition of Jubilee News. Jubilee
News is proud to present another installment from artist-author, Jai-ree,
and...
THE DADDY PAGES
BBBBBBZZZZZZZZZZZZZ, BBBBBBBBZZZZZZZZZZZ
(cell phone vibrating)
Blossom answers the phone, in a very strong,
confident, professional voice, without looking at the display to see who was
calling. “Hello, this is Blossom.”
“Hey Girlie,” she heard from the caller. “Are you
ready for your big date?”
It was her long time friend Celeste, calling to
check on her best friend.
“Girl, I don’t know if I am ever ready
for a date,” Blossom says. “It’s been so long since I’ve been
out.”
“I know, I know but go and enjoy yourself,” said
Celeste in a very motherly tone.
“You deserve to be happy AND you deserve to have
some fun, so…be happy Girlie…and most of all…”
Blossom chimed in and they both finished the
sentence together as they had done for the past 20 years, “have some fun” they
said in unison.
“You know I love you, and besides, from the way you
described this guy, if you don’t want him, Girl, I’ll take ‘em,” as Celeste
laughs out loud.
“You tramp,” Blossom bellows as she swings her arm
in the air as if to lovingly punch her girlfriend if she standing there in
person.
“I know you would,” Blossom finished.
“Girl, you know this is most amount of action the
two of us have seen in weeks!” “I want one of us to have some fun at least,” laughs
Celeste. “So…” Celeste drags out.
“So….”Blossom drags out to mimic Celeste.
“So….”Celeste says in a tone that suggests a slight
bit of girl to girl agitation,
“…have some fun chick!” “And be sure to do whatever
is necessary to produce the best story, is all I’m saying,” said Celeste.
“So wait a minute,” Blossom says as she scratches
her head and gests in curiosity.
“If I don’t go out with him, you want him. But if I
do do this date, you want me to do whatever is necessary to make the best story
for YOUR listening pleasure?”
“I got but one thing to say to you Celestine Maria
Thunder,” Blossom said as her tone sharpens with a mischievous smirk on her
face.
“Well what Girl,” says Celeste bracing herself as
she realizes that her girlfriend just used her full legal name…which is never a
good thing to hear from Blossom.
“Good-bye!”
“Wait, I just…” Celeste screams as Blossom pressed
the End Call button on her cell phone and laughs out loud to herself.
As Blossom continues to get ready, she reaches for
her favorite bracelet-a gift from her Mom for landing her first job after
college, something catches her attention out of the corner of her eye. She sees
the crumpled edges of a piece of loose leaf paper sticking out of one of her
diaries, so she grabs it. She sits down on the bed ever so slowly as it
suddenly dawns on her what that piece of paper is. She slowly opens it. All but
the one crumpled edge had been perfectly preserved, kept in tact since the day
she received it many years ago. It was a love letter from her Dad. A letter he
wrote to her for Valentine’s Day one year when she was in her mid teens. It was
a letter she cherished. And it was the only piece of paper that she received
from her Dad that she actually kept in her diary. She recalls the day she
received it-the day she pulled it out of the mailbox. It was dropped off by her
Dad who had to work a double that day. Dad worked a lot and was away from home
quite a bit she recalled. But he always seemed to surprise his Baby Girl with
the most special things. Although he worked a lot, Dad and Ma never had a lot
of money to buy and to give expensive gifts, so Dad relied on his creativity
most of the time. And, it produced some of the most memorable, most amazing
gifts and times of her life, she thought. Blossom recalled the phone call she
got from her Dad that prompted her to go to the mailbox.
“Baby Girl,” she remembers her Dad saying. She
recalled that she could hear the wind whipping across the microphone of her
Dad’s cell phone as she realized he was driving.
“Happy Valentine’s Day,” said her father in a very
low, almost apologetic tone. Dad struggled with giving gifts because he was
humbled, almost ashamed that he could not afford the kind of gifts that he
thought others would like. But that’s why she loved him so during those years;
because she knew he was doing his very best.
“I only have a few minutes before I have to be back
to work, but I just wanted to say how much I love you and how proud I am of you
and all that you’ve done,” and he paused briefly as if he were about to cry,”
Happy Valentine’s Day Princess.”
“Thank you Dad. I love you too, Dad. Happy
Valentine’s Day,” she said to her Dad in a very thankful tone.
“I put something in the mailbox for you. Please get
it before it rains, O.K.?”
Dad was always the “director.” His was a strong man
and very authoritative. He gave many “orders” over the years but always in a
mild and loving manner. He was the kind of person that would give you the shift
off of his back and would go shirtless for days, because he saw the need to
give to others without ever taking into consideration his own needs. My Dad
stood six foot three, about 270 pounds and had a deep voice. He laughed like Santa
Clause-very hardy. He smiled even through his pain. But often he was quiet,
silent even, especially if something was really troubling him. He said he
learned that principle from his father that it is always best to be quiet
rather than say something hurtful to those you love because…unlike emails, you
can never “recall” the message that you send. So Dad was quiet a lot around the
house. Blossom also remember her mother telling her many times that Dad, who
recovered from a mild stroke a while back, would sometimes go without his
medications and even food, just to make sure his wife, my mother and I, would
have at least some of the things we needed. Those were some of those quiet
days. But even during those times, my Dad would wear a peaceful yet pain filled
smile-the kind of smile that usually precedes a teary outburst. I knew Dad was
hurting. He wanted to be a better provider. He wanted desperately to make more
money so that he could provide more things for my Mom and I. And it bothered
him that he worked so much but just never seemed to have enough money to make
ends meet. But somehow, he managed to go to work each day with a new hope that
today might be the day that could change everything!
Not sure if that is typical of most men. And I’m
not sure how most men handle that. But my Dad’s approach was always to get up;
to show up to work in advance of the shift start time; and to put in another
full day’s work.
Blossom realized that she too has a work ethic and
means for overcoming adversity much like her father. Work. “Yes, I am that
man’s child-no doubt,” she thought.
Join
us for another installment of...THE DADDY PAGES in the next edition.
ARTIST’S CORNER II: WHY CAN’T I MAKE HIM SCREAM
The
Artist's Corner is the section of the newsletter devoted entirely to those
expressive women who have submitted their work to Jubilee News for the uplift
of all. Enjoy!
Why Can't I Make Him SCREAM!
by
MJAY
Why can't I make him scream,
Instead of him thinking I'm just mean,
Be his lover, be his friend, to his
desires being kean.
Why can't I make him scream,
And be the good kind of mean,
From his head to his toe,
And willing to show,
That my love for him continues to grow,
Keeping him running to his own door.
I intend on being the one he wants to
see,
By being the mate God ordained me to be.
Knowing his needs, his thoughts within,
Being clear it's not a Sin.
Why can't I make him scream,
And remain the only one in his dreams,
Still being the woman God wants me to
be,
So glad He allowed me to see.
My purpose like Eve to be his mate,
Watching him stand proud when he's at
the gate.
So glad there are sixty-six books and
not sixty-five,
In Solomon, it's clear that the bed is
undefiled!
I can make him scream, getting back the same thing,
Keeping our union fulfilled, forever and
clean.
Ladies, it's OK. Make him SCREAM!
Above and beyond her
professional accomplishments, MJAY has given herself to promoting the joy of
intimacy within the confines of marriage. She believes there is no better
expression of love than that shown and shared between husband and wife. Join me
in saluting MJAY for her masterful expression of a Godly union.
ANGRY WOMAN
Our attempts to reconcile can
often be fueled with passion and sometimes anger. We should expect rises in
tone and displays of emotion in the course of our dialogues. To focus on the
words and not on the tone, is critical to the continuance of the dialogue
which, if done lovingly, should increase our chances of experiencing a healthy
outcome. None-the-less, the saintliest people are quite liable of some
surprising outbursts. Read the poem below and see if you can relate to this
woman's expression of anger.
FED UP
-by Jairee
Your
children needed to be picked up from school
And that darn dog of yours jumped into the pool
Your son…is hard headed…slipped and fell off the stool
You said you’d be home in time, boy
was I the fool
Where were you?
Rescue me,
somebody! Take me away to another world
Ain’t seen diamond the first, not a cotton pickin’ pearl
LET ME TELL YOU, boy...see...today's not the day
Don't try
to be coy with me, I've got alot that I have to say
Keep your
distance! Come too close-I'll hurl something your way!
So, in case
you haven't noticed, today's just not the day
You promised me…
That you would be sensitive to my needs
If you can’t buy me jewelry, then at least a string of beads
I’m trapped, in too deep, head hurts, heart bleeds
I’m
inundated!
So, if you
mean well,
I can’t tell...no more words
I need deeds !!!
A MESSAGE FROM YOUR CO-HOST: "LOCKER ROOM," THE
RESPONSE
On
the February 23rd broadcast of WHEN MEN SPEAK-The Radio Edition, Founder,
Co-host, & Editor-In-Chief James W. Falcon introduced a segment called the
"Locker Room." The setting (title) was chosen to present a response
to the central question raised in the broadcast from a place where men gather-a
place where the testosterone levels are at their peak, and what better setting
is there than a men's locker room.
From
the locker room, James made his last and final appeal (of the broadcast) for
women to take to heart the message that was shared as the central theme. The
anticipated result: to spark a RELATIONSHIP REVOLUTION!
What
follows is what James intended to share on the broadcast in it's entirety:
"Ladies,
if you really want to know how to love a man, then here’s what you do…be his
partner with the same level of enthusiasm and willingness to give of yourselves
to him as you had in the very beginning of the relationship. He needs to know,
that he has a real partner in you. In public and in private, appreciate him. Be
just as willing to shower him with appreciation, love and affection as you are
to present him with a honey do list. Never mind those special days during the
year, show him this level of attention, affection, and appreciation all year
long and I guarantee that that man will be willing to go to the moon and back
for you. You want to know how to really love a man? Show him that your love has
no boundaries, and the frequency has no limits or conditions. Let me say that
again. That is how to really love a man! That is what men really want."
James W. Falcon
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Women's
Response To "The Locker Room"
We
hear you loud and clear from the Locker Room Cuz! Ladies, often times we take
the men in our lives for granted. We can easily get stuck in the "what
about me" or "what have you done for me lately" syndrome. I have
to admit that prior to engaging in these conversations with my cousin James, I
too was somewhat guilty. I really didn't understand that men need to be shown
as much appreciation and attention as they do. I thought that it was a man's
job to make sure that we received the attention and affirmation we need. And to
hell with what they need. No, I'm just kidding. But, I really didn't get it.
To
me, the thought of loving with a reckless abandonment was very scary because it
meant that I would be vulnerable. And being vulnerable was a no no, because it
was too risky. I didn't want to get hurt so my actions and reactions in my
relationships were based in fear. It was my opinion that loving with an
unconditional or limitless love meant that I was sure to get hurt and, of
course, I had to protect myself from that at all cost. Even if it meant losing
out on true love. And after a few failed relationships, I have to ask myself so
how is that working for you?
So
I say to all of the men in your man caves who feel hurt and abandoned because
you haven't been able to get the attention you need from the women in your
lives, come out, come out from wherever you are. You've spoken and we have
heard you and feel your pain. If unconditional love is what you need, then that
is what you'll receive.
Soberly
submitted,
LaVerna
Saunders
Co-Host,
WHEN MEN SPEAK-The Radio Edition